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Wednesday 27 February 2008

Not So Much of a Working Adult

Due to my lack of writing these days, I thought I owe myself an applause. Apparently this girl is capable of handling responsibility and is extremely hardworking at work that she's just way too exhausted when she reaches home.

(image shows of her laying around at work, browsing through 'pink is the new blog' website, indulging herself in juicy celebrities' gossips, juggling to drop comments on facebook and checking out pictures of current crushes)

So, this is to be my last week on this office and when I share no feeling of attachment at all (for goodness sake it has only been a month, although it feels like three!), I do feel bad to leave my dear friend here. She's also an intern and we've been getting along great. Allow me to paint you a heart-crushing picture here, my lunch break is different than the rest of the staffs. So, that means I had to have lunch all by myself, do you know how it's like out there in the jungle on lunch time? There is no place for a lonely sad girl eating alone in the corner without getting hassled and stared, “you're eating alone? What is wrong with you?!” Tell you, by the second day I learnt my lesson and I just bought something quick to eat at the office.

Okay, even you would think that is beyond pathetic. So, after my second week, a new intern came in and of course she had the same lunch time as me, and the story of 'just for one' is history. Well, the fact that she's not a psycho helps a bit too. Well, anyway she's a really sweet girl.

But, moving on. Yesterday there has been some internet problem at the office, everything was down so while the IT guy was trying to fix it (I swear I could see sweats coming down on his forehead even though it was cold as fuck, imagine the pressure he was on), we couldn't really do anything. Everyone was just sort of staring empty ahead and pretending to be so enlightened and fascinated by the computer screen. Me? I was just playing freecell and spider solitaire. Very classy, girl.

But it still hasn't worked until lunch time so basically I've just been wasting 3 plus hours of my life by doing nothing while I could have just easily slept longer at home. (that attitude won't get you anywhere, young lady!) Melissa (the intern) and I ate at BK nearby for lunch and 'accidentally' came back an hour later. What? It was sort of, raining. We had to walk really slow or we could easily slip. Do you want to see me slip? Do you? Do you? Do you?

Although it's a struggle every morning to wake up and even harder to stay awake right after lunch, I have to say there's a certain pleasure working, I'm doing something with my time, for one, and besides the obvious of getting paid, I'm much more energized and up-and-running. Just don't tell me that after 6.30 pm. ( I resemble more of a greying old maid by that time)

But I'm in the mood for shopping! I need a new pair of shoes. I've thrown away three of my shoes due to their age, by the look of it, they were going straight to pensiun fund. So I'm looking for a shiny black heels or maybe white. Hope today's my lucky day!

Okay, so what have you all been up to? I've been wanting to see Juno and PS I Love You but haven't got the chance! Seriously there's just something there, babe and I have been out twice in hope to catch Juno but the timing was never right. Bollocks.

Hope you all have a nice day, cheers. It's back to freecell...oops, I mean, work,..for me. A bit of slip there.

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Quotes

There's a hundred million different ways of writing, and it takes you a long time to sort through that stuff. And I think it takes anyone a long time to find a voice.

You must learn to take the good with the bad, the happy with the sad, love what you’ve got and remember what you had. Learn to forgive, but never forget, learn from your mistakes but never regret. People change and things go wrong, but you just have to remember that life goes on.

The day before I’m supposed to be meeting Caroline for a drink, I develop all the textbook symptoms of a crush: nervous stomach, long periods spent daydreaming, an inability to remember what she looks like. I can bring back the dress and the boots, and I can see her bangs, but her face is a blank.

I don't know, I think that if I could just accept the fact that my life is supposed to be difficult. You know, that's what to be expected, then I might not get so pissed-off about it and I'll just be glad when something nice happens.

I can see now I never really committed to Laura. I always had one foot out the door, and that prevented me from doing a lot of things, like thinking about my future and... I guess it made more sense to commit to nothing, keep my options open. And that's suicide. By tiny, tiny increments.

There's a big fucking world out there. It's messy, and it's chaotic, and it's never, never ever the thing you'd expect. It is ok to be scared, but you cannot allow your fears to turn you into an asshole, not when it comes to the people that love you, the people that need you.

Maybe what I'm saying is, is the world might be evolving the way a person evolves. Right? Like, I mean, me for example. Am I getting worse? Am I improving? I don't know. When I was younger, I was healthier, but I was, uh, whacked with insecurity, you know? Now I'm older and my problems are deeper, but I'm more equipped to handle them.

I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who's ever lived: I've loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.

Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.

A woman needs to be held, even, and science has shown this, if its with someone she doesn't care about. Protective hormones are released, and the amount of hormones released depends on the degree to which she is held. The first and best is the complete surround. He wraps you in both arms, whispers how beautiful you are. Second best is the 'arm around.' He is next to you but with one arm around you. Third is he's just next to you on his elbow, but he rests his hand on your stomach and looks at you. Fourth is you snuggling up to him with your head on his chest, while he looks away into space. But when the first best happens, you feel completely, wonderfully like a woman.

So, so what, so fuck off, go home, leave you alone? I'll tell you something Paul, there isn't anything that I've wanted for eighteen years, cause I was a kid eighteen years ago. And if I did still want the same things I'd think I'd gone wrong somewhere, because actually I don't want to marry David Cassidy, I don't want bigger tits, I don't want to do better on my marks. I've stopped worrying about that kind of thing and maybe you should try.

Well maybe there's a big bit of you that's gone missing somewhere, maybe everyone should want something they've always wanted.

Why is it that adults aren't supposed to go mad about anything? You gotta keep a lid on it. And if you don't then people are apparently entitled to say what they like. "You haven't grown up. You're a moron. Your conversation is trivial and boorish. You can't express your emotional needs. You can't relate to your children." And you die, lonely and miserable. But you know, what the hell, every cloud has a silver lining.

I just woke up one morning and didn't feel the same way. Where did it go? It was like there had been a lot of food on a plate in front of us, and we ate it all really quickly, and then there was nothing left. Maybe that's how couples stay together: they're not greedy. They know that what they have in front of them has to last a long time, so they kind of pick at it. I hope it's not like that, though. I hope that when people are happy together, it feels as though someone keeps piling seconds and thirds on their plates.

That is what I have learned: Sex is destructive. Love is nothing to be fooled with. I learned that I was dangerous, not to be trusted. I wondered if my parents were right, with all of their stiff lovelessness. Maybe they knew better. My parents don't dole out love for the deserving or the undeserving. I was learning that love could cost me.

You could say all you liked about reason and logic and common sense and imagination, but when the chips were down, the one skill you needed was the ability to think about absolutely nothing whatsoever.

There is a comfort in never making an effort, but it's a lonely comfort. What keeps you going is the knowledge that you're only playing with only four cards showing. But when you see other people succeeding with their mediocre hands, you have to make a decision. If you turn over that final card you're certain of victory, but it also means you have nothing in reserve.

I’d gone through life believing in the strength and competence of others; never in my own. Now, dazzled, I discovered that my capacities were real. It was like finding a fortune in the lining of an old coat.

Maybe we all live life at too high a pitch, those of us who absorb emotional things all day, and as mere consequence we can never feel merely content: we have to be unhappy, or ecstatically, head-over-heels happy, and those states are difficult to achieve within a stable, solid relationship.